Out of Wedlock Relationships Elyzah Bernstein
9/8/14
Out of wedlock: parents not legally married to each other: born out of wedlock.
Do you have to get married if you are expecting or have already had a child?
Most people believe that if you are expecting or have already had a child, you need to get married. Many people generalize and stereotype families that have parents who aren't married. They believe that the parents don't have a stable relationship or the parents are always fighting and leaving or that they aren't happy in general. But what if an unmarried couple is as happy as a couple who is married? What if the unmarried couple is more stable than a couple that is married? It is believed that by 2016, most children will be born out of wedlock and that is seen as a problem to others. Many people are saying that it's because of financial reasons and because the average age of women who are getting married is way older than it was back in the days, 23 to 29 years old. Countries are trying to lower taxes for married couples with children to encourage others to get married.
One of the main arguments is that children who don't have married parents are more likely to have an unstable life. Also that children who have unmarried parents are less likely to do well I'm school. But that's not true. What if the child with the happily married parents isn't doing well in class? You can't automatically say someone isn't going to do well because their parents aren't married. That's just plain ignorant and stupid. We need to learn that we can't generalize all out of wedlock relationships and the children involved. Not all out of wedlock relationships are unstable or unhappy. That's the problem with America. We generalize too much. We stereotype too much.
Married couples and unmarried couples are the same except one is accepted by America and one isn't. Why is that?
Very interesting...I personally know someone who was going to get married out of wedlock. I don't necessarily think that people would have an unhappy life if there parents aren't together. I defiantley agree that situations like these are stereotyped and it's unfortunate because it destroys the image of what could be vs. what should be
ReplyDeleteThis is a really interesting topic and I think you argued it really well. I totally agree that just because a couple isn't married, doesn't mean that there is something wrong with them or will be something wrong with their children. Marriage just isn't for some people, and America should learn to accept that because they can't do anything to change it.
ReplyDeleteI think this is interesting, and i agree that not only married parents can provide a good environment for their children. If parents hate each other but still be together, i think this would hurt their children.
ReplyDeleteGood job arguing your topic. I think that it doesn't matter if the parents are married or not as long as the child is in a happy and safe environment.
ReplyDeleteReally good topic! A lot of children I know were born out of wedlock. I think it's true that children need a stable environment. But children can find that being in a family that was married before the birth or even after.
ReplyDeleteThis is articulated well and definitely applies to a lot of people's lives in our society. Very good job.
ReplyDeleteI specifically appreciated how you framed the topic the stereotypical critiques and then proceeded to demonstrate the illogical conclusions many people make when talking about children born out of wedlock. Excellent use of the Socratic method!
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