FORGIVENESS
Forgiveness is a complex emotion because people often assume to forgive means let everything that happened go and still be okay with that person. There is acceptance and forgiveness and then their is welcoming them back into ones life. People think forgiveness is all about oh i forgive you come here and give me a hug but i feel that forgiveness has more steps than one which requires two ways of forgiveness.
Part one would be acceptance, acknowledging the persons feelings and allowing them to apologize for their wrong doings. If something was traumatic for an individual its hard to forgive the person who made it like that. Apart of growing up is forgiving in a way like you did wrong, i forgive you but i want cant have anything to do with you because for one to forgive it doesnt mean they need to necessarily need to continue to keep contact with the person. Welcoming one back into their life is the second step to forgiveness, its optional because in some situations its impossible to welcome someone back into ones life due to them ruining ones future.
To first accept what happened helps heal ones soul and lift a burden off their chest. To welcome the trader back would (hopefully) make the other person feel a burden lifted as well. In other situations, forgiveness of oneself can be the most difficult because we are so hard on ourselves and so judgmental; we are our own worst critics. Time has a way of healing though; forgiveness takes time, its not something that happens over night. Its a process but worth it by the end because why waste energy on something so negative when there are many joys in life.
To be a philosopher is not merely to have subtle thoughts, nor even to found a school…it is to solve some of the problems of life, not only theoretically, but practically. – Henry David Thoreau
Like the say, you can't forget even if you forgive. But I like what you said about acceptance of what already happened. That's really a hard, but efficient way to move on.
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